1.
How can you get over what you fear? You can transform it into creativity.
Fear is a very powerful energy. In fact, it is an energy in motion
An emotion. I have found the best way to harness this energy
is to use it positively. You can write, draw, go for a walk, run,
or even swim. The main thing is not to dwell on what you fear. I have
a 3-minute rule. I use this with many of my clients. I say allow yourself
3 - 30 minutes to mull things over and dwell; and then put the fear
away and do something proactive and uplifting for yourself. I also
suggest listening to my CD Transforming Fear into Creativity and to
do the meditation processing on it. I do this, myself, once a day;
sometimes more depending on what new challenge I am experiencing.
We all have fear. Fear is natural to a degree and doesnt go
away; however it can be a powerful tool if it is harnessed right.
2.
Ever
notice how hard it is to get out of a bad mood? It is easier to get
out of a bad mood by not getting into one! How you might say? You
can set the tone for your day at the beginning of the day.Your day
literally starts before you get out of your bed. Start your day by
not rushing
. Take a little extra time getting out of your bed
and do a 3 minute focused meditation. After awakening dont just
rebound out of your bed. Lay there for a minute or two, close your
eyes, focus on your breathing and slow your breath down. Tell yourself
"I am in the flow of my day. I am calm and centered inside."
Now bring your attention and focus to the top of your head and notice
how you are breathing. Begin to notice the part of you that is observing
you. If thoughts come in your mind thats ok, focus on your breath
and keep it at a slow stead pace. Repeat to yourself " I am in
the flow of my day. I am calm and centered inside." Now you are
ready for your day. You are now your own stress management consultant.
And, if by chance the day is hectic at least you will be relaxed and
centered inside.
3.
Your breath is a wonderful tool for relaxation and it is free. It
is said that when the breath is steady the mind is calm. The next
time you are feeling rushed or stressed over some situation try this
exercise; better yet, try this exercise for 21 days and notice how
you change your overall attitude in life. Take about 10 minutes for
yourself, go somewhere where you can have some quite time. Now get
in a comfortable relaxed position. Allow yourself to take this time
to focus on relaxation and rejuvenation. Close your eyes. Now with
your inner gaze focus on the heart lung area of your body and
begin to slow your breath down. Allow your breath to slow down. Now
begin to breathe in for a count of 3, lightly hold for a count of
3, and exhale slowly all the way out for a count of 3. Allow yourself
to breathe all the way into your stomach-abdomen area. Do this 5 or
6 times. Now allow your breath to go back to its natural rhythm and
simply watch your breath. Notice how you feel. Focus on each inhalation
and each exhalation. If any thoughts come in your mind, simply bring
your focus back to your breath. Now see how much more calm and relaxed
your are. You can now decide to live in a relaxed and healthy way,
And, like anything else practice makes perfect.
4.
Many
people now see success coaches to help them accomplish their goals.This
can be costly and time consuming. You can be your own success coach
by visualizing and rehearsing your success twice a day. It is best
to do this at a time you have for yourself and this process. First,
I would suggest writing down your goal. Write this down in the present
tense as if you were already living your goal or dream.Next, you will
need to get into a comfortable and relaxed state. It is much easier
to create positive changes in a relaxed state. This state also begins
to quiet " The Doubter "part of us all. You know the part
that says you cant do this! Now, close your eyes and get in
a comfortable relaxed state. Slow your breath down. Breathe in for
a count of 3. Hold your breath, lightly for a count of 3. Exhale all
the way out for a count of 3. Do this for a couple of times until
you feel more relaxed; then visualize yourself experiencing your goal
or dream. Notice how you feel and use this feeling to connect more
with your goal. Next imagine yourself achieving your goal and living
your dream. Research has shown that most people that succeed in their
goals can see themselves achieving their goals and living their dream.
This is most noted with athletes, who use the power of visualization
and focus to meet their goals. If you can see it, and believe it;
you can achieve it.
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